How Can A Pisces Men Feel Touched?

SJ Asks:

Hi Alan, I’ve read almost all of your posts and I find that you are the best person to give me advices. You provided great details and I feel that you are a very kind person, helping others with their problems. I am a Libra woman and had before an unsuccessful relationship with a Pisces men in my school days and another one recently in my workplace. To cut things short, I need your help in knowing what things makes Pisces men like you get touched and feel appreciated?

What presents or words of comfort or actions would you loved to receive the most? I handmade a thank you card for him and a pen engraved with his name on it as a farewell present for him. He opened the present and he seems to be thinking for a second and he says that he will definitely use it with a smile but I didn’t manage to see his expression of the card as he did not open it in front of me. The next day, he did not mention anything about it as well.

(Second Part)

Sorry Alan, my previous message was send out to you incomplete as I accidentally pressed wrongly while editing.

To continue with it, my past relationship with a Pisces in school was unsuccessful as I confessed my feelings for him and he told me we should be friends. So for this current one, I dare not make the first move in letting my feelings show.

All that I did was to care for him, once he was really sick and I texted him to drink more water and asked if he was slightly better at different hours of the day. And I will also buy our work team food and drinks and he will do the same as well. He always come over to my desk and sit close to me and have small talks… Once or twice he actually ask me weird questions like “I thought you are always sticking with me!” when once I did not follow him on an errand and he say he thought he saw me there when I wasn’t.

Another one was I am being called to do something that I didn’t wish to and after he knew it he say why didn’t I tell him about it… I was left speechless as to why do I have to tell him as we are just colleagues. And I answer that it’s just a small issue so it’s okay.

There are many other confusing things that he did and it will be a lengthy one if I continue… I get the feeling that he is interest in me only physically not emotionally as he frequently brushes past against me and frequently looking at me whenever he pass by my desk yet when I message him he will reply but never continue the conversation… May I know your thoughts about these? Thanks for your patience in reading my post.

SJ,

Thank you for your kind words. For the sake of the topic being touched and appreciated, getting items such as a pen engraved with my name on it doesn’t mean much if there is no significance to the story behind it. In many ways it would be like going to the gift shop and buying a cup that has a person’s name. It’s a cute gift I would be thankful for, but it wouldn’t necessarily hit me in the way you are hoping.

I don’t know exactly what the context of the farewell gift was with what you wrote, but a person like myself would have probably been extremely touched and appreciated if it was a simple letter that came straight from the heart. Example, expressing how we have helped each other, made each other grow, remember sentimental stuff that is unique to us, offering to be there if I need it, etc.

Now this may sound contradicting for you as based on what you wrote it sounds like you confessing your feelings to a person did not produce an ideal outcome. However, the good news is for a person like myself you shouldn’t ever need to come all out in an attempt to start something. With my type of personality, all I need is for you to be the initiator of sort. Like if you wrote that letter, which doesn’t say “I love you” but rather your appreciation for what we have, I would try to arrange ways we can stay in contact. A person like me will take action if I feel there is something good between us.

For what you wrote on the second part, to me it makes perfect sense about him questioning why you didn’t tell him about the job you didn’t want to do. By the sounds of it, you were extremely caring when he was really sick. Essentially, being attentive and concerned for him when he isn’t in the best condition. Therefore, he wants to return this for when you aren’t having the best day and is surprised you wouldn’t allow him to do what you have done for him. In that sense, it feels like he is trying to get to know you better and you are on his mind.

Him frequently brushing past yet replying to your messages with no follow up to me sounds like he simply doesn’t know what to do. I am only working with what I have of course, but if I was to fit this in with what you wrote it would make sense to me like this. Basically, at first he thought that he could connect with you closer in terms of being a source of positivity for when you are down in life. However, that didn’t turn out to be the case and so he is confused as to how to proceed with you.

He still wants to get closer with you and so he initiates these “brushes” in hopes that you will respond back as a way to show you are interested in him back. Still no response but not giving up, he responds to every communication you send to him promptly because he still wants to pursue this but has no clue how and if he should move forward.

Again, this is all assumptions based on the limited information but that type of scenario would make sense to me. Of course it doesn’t particularly say if he just wants you for physical reasons of course as that is another topic.

So back to the original question of what a person like me would love to receive the most to feel touched. At the end of the day, to feel touched I would say it’s about demonstrating similar life values. This will of course vary depending on the person’s background and experience. Example, if I was the type of person who would run into a house that is on fire to save a life and I see you do the same that will instantly touch me because there has to be a reason I am so passionate in doing that. So seeing someone else do it makes me feel touched simply due to the fact that I see a bit of myself in you.

To feel appreciated, the most straight forward answer is knowing that you are there for me too. Even more so if I didn’t specifically ask for it. Example, if one day I had something stolen from me and I see people take their own initiative to try and help me find the culprit that simple action alone, regardless if I actually get the item back, makes me feel appreciated as people are compelled to try and take care of me back. Think of it like a tree. If you really appreciate it you aren’t just going to take its fruit and stand by as someone attempts to chop it down. It doesn’t have to speak for you to want to water it or scare away the culprits.

It’s not too complicated when you think about. In essence it’s largely just about you being yourself too. If we have similar matching values and all then it should play out smoothly. Hopefully all this didn’t sound too deep or philosophical. For someone like myself it truly is about connecting though.