Needed Confirmation!
Silly Asks:
Hello there! I have been following your blog for a while after I discovered that the guy at my workplace is a Pisces! I want to know if he likes me a lot but I am afraid of asking him as we still have to work together in case he wasn’t!! I like him a lot! ? and I think he also likes me too. ☺️ But same like what I read here, this Pisces guy also treat every other girls well! So I don’t want to appear stupid in case it’s just me that develop feelings!
I will give you some things that he does and please help me to analyse will you? On a side note, I am from Asia so I am not sure will there be a difference in culture as we are more conservative because I think you from western country?! But still, please help in anyway you could?! So here I go:
He likes to stare at me a lot! When he walk pass me he will be looking at my direction. When I also happen to be looking at him, our eye contact will hold there for a while longer before he takes them away! This happen so so many times within a day! Sometimes, I know it is him coming over, I will pretend that I am not aware then from the corner of my eyes I saw that he is looking at me. But when I turned to him, he looks cute and startled because I see him avert his gaze then accompanied by small hand gestures of rubbing his palms together or rubbing his face then walked away! ?
Whenever we are in group, he always stand in front of me whenever we all chit chat but he will never look at me but the people around me! But if he sits beside me when we are alone, he look straight into the walkway but not at me while talking! Normally when people talked seated next to each other, don’t they sit at a 45 degree angle instead of 90?! Is he really that nervous? As sometimes our face will be really close and I always look at him if his face turn to my direction and our eyes meet, he will quickly look straight again or find some excuse to walk off.If I am sick or not well, he seems worried! He will keep asking how are you every now and then, so concern and once or twice I am closing my eyes at my desk, he called out my name and ask am I having a headache? Or if not then he will deliberately ask me questions when there are other colleagues around.
He likes to charge his phone in the office but always place his cable around in a messy way so I always coil them up and tuck it into his drawer, and ended up when he needs them, he always come after me asking where is my charger when it’s just inside his drawer! He don’t bother to find it but always relying on me! ? I find it cute as its not as if I hid it in some corners of the office.
Whenever he saw something interesting like Facebook or commotions outside he always like to share it with me. Then we will be laughing at it or commenting at it. Likewise, if something happen to him he likes to tell me about it, like a bad day from the superior, something up in the weekend like his dad birthday or the latest movies that we both liked. But when I hinted that I have nobody to watch it with me he doesn’t takes the chance though. At the same time, he also seem to be interested in my life because he asked what I do on weekends, if I get a call and I picked it up outside and he happens to see he will ask who called you but of course in a indirect way.
Sometimes when I buy coffee and tea in the morning for him and colleagues and after awhile he will come back with pastry or stuffs for us too and say to me let’s eat them together! ?
At some days when we need to work on a project, I don’t know if the room was indeed so squeezy, but he likes to brush past me. Or touching me in some ways. This is sort of embarrassing but once his bits “accidentally'”grazed against the side of my thighs and he also seemed shock because he kind of knocked into the chair in the way. I didn’t say or do anything yet to continue with my stuffs in order not to make it awkward. When I exit the room he was standing in another place of the room hiding amidst other colleagues like nothing happened.
There are many other small trival things to mention but I find my question to be very long so for now, please help me to analyse how much is his interest in me in a romantic way! If you need other information to aid in understanding more please let me know and I will add it! Thank you so so much in advance!! ?
Silly,
Yes, I am from the western area. Though I don’t think that really makes a difference honestly for what we are trying to uncover. People say love is a universal language right?
I must admit, I never heard of the term “bits” for what I think you are trying to describe. You learn something new everyday……. But based on what you wrote, it sounds like he is into you. As you kind of implied, he is really nervous it seems and doesn’t really know what to do. The example of you hinting you have no one to watch the movie with is a great example. If I was that nervous like him I wouldn’t take action either despite me “getting the hint” from you. This is where I say people like yourself have to take initiative usually. If he is really into you, which it sounds like he is, he will be enthusiastic and accept your offer.
You have to base their interest on you with things like that. Likewise, him constantly asking you how you are when you are sick is a good sign for this too. The other factor I am kind of getting based on what you wrote is that he doesn’t feel that he is enough for say yourself or the people around him. As a result, he feels he needs to do things to impress a person like you. That adds to the nervous factor because he doesn’t want to mess up.
Generally speaking, you shouldn’t have to ask him “Hey do you like me?” as I feel that could scare him off. Instead, just take initiative in setting things up with him such as watching movies together. If you think about it, this solves two problems. It spares you from the feeling that you may be embarrassing yourself where you ask him that question just for him to potentially say no and it gets rid of the risk of you scaring him away by putting too much pressure.
The activities are your best bet at the moment. Imagining if I was in his shoes with all the hints and such so far, I can picture this as a situation where first you can simply do activities as a “friend.” Again, take initiative. Don’t just say “You know, I am going to go to the movies alone today” and then hope he will say “Oh, I’ll come with you.” It has to be more firm such as “Oh, that movie is coming out tomorrow. Want to watch it together?” With that request, there is no pressure that it is a “date” and you are giving him no excuse to be afraid of it.
As time goes on, continue this with the activities and events. He should have the confidence to do the same for you eventually. If he is really into you, he should naturally start to get more comfortable in physically flirting with you too. This won’t be like “rubs” when he walks past you but rather openness in hugging you, touching your hair, sitting right next to you in a very close way, etc. At the same time, he will open up about himself more to you such as revealing trials or tribulations. If you see that, then jump at the opportunity to find out more about it.
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