Good or Bad Idea To Tell A Pisces Man That You Love Him

Claire Asks:

I’ve been seeing a pisces man for about 4 months now and its getting pretty serious. He has said that he has feelings for me but never the “L” word. I however would like to tell him exactly how I feel. I am pretty sure I am in love with him and want to feel closer to him. Do Pisces men like hearing this or is it going to make him run a mile? Thanks

Claire,

This really depends on the person. Speaking for myself with a more reserved personality, I prefer to let actions show feelings and amount of care as opposed to a word. It’s nice to hear the word for reassurance, but at the same time it can be scary as it can signify extreme commitment. Basically, saying “I love you” can in many ways mean “Will you marry me” if the person is one to take things really slow like myself.

I wouldn’t run a mile away for example, but it is extremely awkward in a sense that if my definition of love is a higher commitment level than what you are thinking then saying it back isn’t what I truly feel. This would then put me in a situation where I feel I would have to judge you faster as a person so that I wouldn’t be wasting your time if I don’t see marriage material in us. That is ultimately why I would “run” and I think that is a key element we need to separate. I know many people in a relationship setting view the word love as solely an expression of care whereas others see it as a level of commitment.

Strangely enough, I would be more skeptical if the person said that word so fast. I personally feel that the best signs to focus on in one’s actions. It’s one of the most telling and non-pressured ways to get the answers you are looking for. If he is reluctant to say the word but you want to feel closer, maybe a good way to do it would be to create a fun project of sorts together. Basically, something that requires teamwork to accomplish. I dare to say that if you two did something extremely challenging together that you both persevered through, he will say the word as an example.