He is back
My name is Alana and I recently started dating a Pisces man. We met online and although we started as friends we kind of went romantic. We live far, and he was the one mentioning he is lonely and want to move to my country, so he made efforts, but everything seemed impossible. I did not believe much because of my recent relationship, but somehow he went under my skin and I was being supportive cause he is kind and nice and cause I liked him.
However, he decided to mute me and he went away for a month. Then, I sent him a long message explaining he hurt me and that I really do not understand what happened. Then he readded me on all social media and said he saw it has no future and he felt powerless.
What do I do now? Did i made a mistake for reaching out to him?
i have to mention he is a lonely, sad boy who have been through a lot so I always been careful with him.
My first honest reaction with what you wrote is that he simply isn’t who he claims to be in many ways where there is a high chance that you are giving him too much benefit of the doubt as a result of that desire to find the perfect partner per se. For example, the re-adding you on all social media in context with what you wrote feels like he wasn’t stringing you along, so to speak, fast enough and so it was like a calculated attempt to suspend the conversation in a way that gives him multiple options to flee or continue.
Like in this case I would be inclined to say the constant reiteration of him telling you that he is like lonely basically distorts your emotions towards him in many ways as we all naturally want to like say care for others. Was it a mistake to reach out to him? That really depends. What exactly was your goal in contacting him back? Example, to have him actually move to your country as you still see something here? To get unresolved answers that you can’t sleep at night without knowing?
I think we need to answer that first. But generally speaking you did reach out and you got the answer he gave you. So the question is how do you feel about that answer and how he has treated you thus far? From there it’s up to you to decide where to walk next.