Is he lying?
Doly Asks:
Hi Alan
Thank you for taking out time to answer people like us who need help. Currently i like this pisces born on 19 march. I found his id on Facebook 2 weeks back. As he is exceptionally good looking so I immediately liked him and sent him friend request. He accepted it in no time. First day of chatting we hit it off, both couldnt stop chatting all day. He insistedto talk to me at night on fone, so i sent him my number and we talked for an hour. He briefly informed me about his work schedule, his tough routine, that he sleeps barely for few hours at night, work tirelessly during the day, then attend to friends and relatives too in evening hours, so no personal or free time for himself. Right now he is working on a high administrative position with government.
We chatted next day too, during his busy schedule when he had to run in his car from one office to another as his work required, he called me from his cell various times . I was flattered by his continuous attention. I avoided asking him about his relationship status, being afraid that he might be married, which I didn’t want to hear, so i postponned the question till later. But something disturbed me, he started using nick names for me like baby, sweetheart etc without asking or probing for my real name, because i used a fake name on my Facebook id. I pointed it out to him but he didn’t give much attention. Then later that second night since we had started chatting, he suddenly wanted to have sex chat on fone,which I despise seriously. So we had argument and i ended conversation between us. To which he apologised a lot so i had to take him back in morning.
When weekend approached he suddenly informed me that he spends his weekends in his village which is 3 hours drive away from city. Where his mother and siblings are living. I was surprised because he never mentioned anything like that before, so again we had argument. I accused him of being married too and hiding his wife and kids in village. He denied to it and told me that he is divorced. That he had an arrange marriage few years back, but his wife was forced to marry with him according to village tradition, so after marriage she refused to accept him as her husband and took divorce. I had to accept his story.
He also told me about his earlier life that with how much hard work and little resources he worked his way through to success and his present position. I really respected him for that and sympathised with him on his divorce which happened few months back. During conversation i asked him that if he saw our relationship going towards any commitment or marriage in long run? He said yes why not, he doesn’t see any reason that it couldn’t. I was satisfied with his answer.
I told him that although its too early to say this but if he married me, i can live with him even in his village. He thanked me for this gesture. During weekend he was too busy socially attending to his family and relatives, so he hardly chatted with me except sending few messages. Which made me furious again because I always need lots of attention from my friends and hate to be ignored for longer periodsof time. After my few arguments he simply ignored my messages more. Next day on Monday he returned back to city and his work early in morning. Worked tirelessly all day, and hardly responded to my any message till late night.
He stayed like this aloof on Tuesday too, whereas i continued sending him messages by whatsapp, during chats I revealed to him more about my family and back ground, about my father who is bearing a high official post currently in government, etc. At same time told him about vast charity projects that me and our family are working on. He seemed impressed , but didn’t say anything. So I become depressed by next day. I stopped sending messages tohim at all. He sensed it and asked me how i was doing, when I didn’t answer him back, he told me that he loved me. I told him that its over between us, but he said to give our relationship a bit more time. I agreed to that and told him that i loved him a lot too.
Alan the question here that i want to ask is that as u said that Pisces asks a lot of questions when they are interested, whereas this person asked me nothing yet. No question, not even about my name, siblings, my hobies, etc. It alarms me, is he serious with me? Or just taking me lightly . He also has offered me to come visit him and stay with him for a night or two at his house , and promised that he wouldn’t touch me.
Doly,
To be certain that I am reading this correctly you never really talked to this person live in-person? So with everything you wrote to me such as him running to his car and then to his office is purely based on what he tells you which you then try and imagine right? Because in some ways it sounds like this is purely an online thing whereas other parts sound like you actually do meet in-person.
In scenarios like these I think you need to make a clear distinction between what you know and what you think. Because in relation to your subject question of if he is lying the bottom line is in many ways I feel you shouldn’t be concluding anything until you see actual tangible proof. Example, if he says he is a hard working guy running around and all then it would be wise to only consider that as “true” if you actually see it in some form. Safety wise, since this whole thing sounds suspicious, don’t just make the assumption because you are physically attracted to him as an example. Because in many ways you even implied that you wish to keep this imagination of him like with the relationship status as it would say break your heart if he was married per se.
The part with the sex chat on the phone should be the key information here. To me anyways with what you wrote that kind of defines exactly what he sees in you and is buttering you up for it in many ways. Everything with the parts of him talking about a “divorce” to the hard life seems to be a strategy I feel to lower your guard based on how sudden as you say he asked for the sex chat. In my opinion that kind of stuff doesn’t just happen as odds are that was like say his original goal where he felt it was the right moment where you would agree.
Yes, speaking for like myself a person like me would ask a ton of questions if I am in a sense serious. Why wouldn’t I if you think about it? Because one of the “fears” if you want to call it that with a person that thinks like me is like say marrying or being with the wrong person. So I want a person for the long term in an ideal way. If a person was more short term and just wanted like say sex why would they care to ask questions like that? Something to think about.
That part about going to his house sounds really “creepy” and unsafe if I don’t say so myself. Wouldn’t recommend it personally as it doesn’t sound like you really know who he is. The fact that you are here asking me about him too would demonstrate that further. As well, why does he have to “promise” you that he wouldn’t touch you? To me that kind of further shows what his real hope was in a sense where he is just trying an alternative way to reach that goal.
In the end is he lying to you? I can’t really answer that directly as I don’t know him and the facts, but it does sound like he isn’t being authentically genuine with you about his intentions based on what you wrote.
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